The dream of every performer is to please their entire audience. However, let's be real—that's just not possible. Striving for universal approval can lead to persistent self-doubt and anxiety, which are common among individuals in high-pressure environments. Research indicates that self-stigma can significantly impact mental health, as individuals often internalize negative perceptions of themselves related to their performance and abilities, further complicating their emotional well-being [1].
Here are some techniques to help you stop being so harsh on yourself.
1. Make Conscious Choices
Stay aware and informed as you process information. Your thought process should focus on making decisions that satisfy you as well. Aim to make choices that do not intentionally harm anyone, including yourself. Research shows that individuals who actively engage in self-reflection and conscious decision-making tend to experience better mental health outcomes, as they are less likely to succumb to negative thought patterns [3].
2. Focus on the Positive
Concentrate on the positive aspects of any situation. Negativity may be pervasive, but it shouldn't cloud your judgment. Positivity can be found, no matter where you are in life. When you communicate, aim to express something uplifting. Research suggests that positive thinking can enhance psychological functioning and resilience, helping individuals cope better with stress [4]. Sometimes, it's advisable to remain silent rather than propagate negativity.
3. Avoid Stereotyping
Refrain from jumping to conclusions based on limited information. Ensure you've considered all aspects and gathered enough knowledge before making any judgments. Every situation and person is unique, and research indicates that biases can cloud our perceptions, leading to misunderstandings and increased anxiety [2].
4. Accept Outcomes
If you're constantly judging yourself, it's likely you'll do the same to others. Just because things don't go your way doesn't mean they're wrong. Every action yields both positive and negative outcomes, regardless of your feelings about them. Being at peace with your decisions and preparing for the results, whatever they may be, is crucial for mental health. A study highlighted that fear of health impairments and negative outcomes can hinder decision-making and self-acceptance [2].
5. Lighten Up
People often don't notice every little thing you do. Sometimes, your failures might go unnoticed by everyone except you. That doesn't mean you shouldn't take them seriously, though. Learn from your mistakes and move forward; your failures should never define your character, while your successes should. The ability to embrace imperfection is associated with better mental health and resilience [5].
For personalized advice, you might find it helpful to consider an online doctor consultation. With Healz.ai, you can easily talk to a doctor online or even use our online AI doctor to get instant guidance, making it easier to manage your mental health.
References:
- Doron Amsalem, R Tyler Rogers, T Scott Stroup, Lisa Dixon, Leah G Pope. Self-stigma among people with serious mental illnesses: The use of focus groups to inform the development of a brief video intervention.. PubMed. 2023.
- Marina Iosifyan, Galina Arina. Perceived value threats are related to fear of health impairments.. PubMed. 2021.
- Adi Lavi-Rotenberg, Noa Frishman, Libby Igra, Eva Gilboa-Schechtman, Ilanit Hasson-Ohayon. Beyond One's Attitude Toward the Self: The Role of Social Anxiety in Self-Stigma Among Individuals With Schizophrenia.. PubMed. 2023.
- James N Kirby, Jamin Day, Vinita Sagar. The 'Flow' of compassion: A meta-analysis of the fears of compassion scales and psychological functioning.. PubMed. 2019.
- Yanhao Wang, Qiuhua Yu, Zihuan Zeng, Ruizhu Yuan, Ruiding Wang, Jianli Chen, Hengyu Zhou, Jiao Tang. Predictors of fear of diabetes progression: A multi-center cross-sectional study for patients self-management and healthcare professions education.. PubMed. 2022.